Help! I Don’t Know How Much Longer I Can Keep It All Together!
Let’s face it, we’ve all been there. Had those days when life seems so overwhelming that we question whether we can keep it all together. This week on The Successful Soulopreneur Radio Show sponsored by Starshine Communities, I and my co-hosts were present on our call-in advice line and received this question:
I am a busy corporate executive who keeps up a brave face at work, but am struggling with keeping it all together. My husband was recently laid off, my mother has been moved into hospice care, my son who has graduated high school and lives at home, thinks the house rules” no longer apply to him and my adult daughter, temporarily living back at home is having anxiety attacks sometimes so severe she ends up in the emergency room. I don’t know how much longer I can keep it all together! Any helpful suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!
Here is the Top Advice from our Panel:
Yes, this is a hard time. It's hard for you. It would be hard for anybody. You're human. My three suggestions all start with A: Acceptance. Understand and trust that this will not last. This phase will not last forever. Second A: Ask . I know that it can be very challenging to ask for help, especially if you're a corporate executive. You are probably a very independent type, a driven person. Yet we all need to take off our Cape at times and ask for help. And, thirdly, Authenticity. It may not feel appropriate to share with your employees or certain people in your workplace, but you may be surprised that even opening up to one coworker or your boss and just saying “This is where I'm at, can we work something out?” could bring some relief.
ShaRon Rea, The Whole Family Coaching
I invite you to find an opportunity for self-care. Create that space where you can be solid and grounded and hear your own voice. When we have so much going on in our lives, we try and wear that brave face which is not giving us a chance to acknowledge what’s going on behind the mask. I encourage you to find some time in the morning to put your feet on the ground. If you can do that outside in the dirt, even for 2 minutes that would be great. And in the evening take another one or two minutes before bed and just release everyone. Get their energy off of you; put it aside so you can really start to discover who you are again. Ground yourself, close your eyes and really tune in to you.
I find it helpful to acknowledge your feelings, to say out loud, proclaim it. “I am really angry about where my life is right now. I am really frustrated that my children are in this position.” Whatever the feelings are, when you can speak it out loudly, get it out of your body; you're going to feel a huge relief. And you may have to do that a few times a day to really release that energy from your body. From a feng shui standpoint, I'd love for you to have your own space in your home. It sounds like the home is getting very full with lower vibrations and if you could have a space to just go off and have some quiet time that would be very helpful.
I would suggest to set some boundaries around what you are willing and able to do right now. People get so used to us saying “yes”, that it might feel a little uncomfortable initially saying “no”. But you might be surprised, as I was, that when we say “no” other people really will pick up the slack. In fact, I find it actually helps others take ownership and responsibility. At this time you need to do what is right for you, without apology. Remember that “No.” is a complete sentence. You may feel that you have to give a reason for why you won't or what you're not going to do, but you don't really have to. Not at all. I know, easier said than done. It just takes a little practice!
Our hearts go out to you, dear listener, and we sincerely hope that at least one of our suggestions helps you to hang on. At the very least, know that you are not alone!! I